This week I’ve had to make a tough decision on some work related stuff.
I have the same problem with saying “Yes” too often. And I’ve realized that I have issues when it comes to the need to please or not wanting to disappoint someone. That seems to be a trait that many women feel and it invades so many aspects of our lives – and I found it refreshing to hear a male say that it isn’t a gender specific handicap. I don’t know about everyone else but, for me, when I take on a task because of these feelings or a feeling of obligation, I almost always regret it.
I found the questions at the related link very helpful and find them to be worth repeating:
• am I actually passionate about this?
• does this give a benefit of is it an act of grace
• who/what does it take away from?
• am I actually a good person for this, or am I just the only person the asking person knows? and do I know someone else who would better be suited?
My own major question for myself is always “will this be an opportunity for me to grow as a person/artist or will I feel stifled?” That’s a major point of steering me in the right direction.
Strange enough, in my latest decision making process, I had run each of those questions around in my mind quite a bit. I think I’m going to print those out and refer to them often. Because those four simple questions are great guidelines & seem to really get to the heart of the matter when it comes to “which road do I take?”